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    Farewell To A Friend

    I met Jeff in the mid 90’s through Scouting with our boys. Jeff had just lost his wife (and mother of his son) to cancer. I think that I entered his life for a reason. Our friendship blossomed and we quickly found we shared a fondness for anything on two wheels - be it human or internal combustion powered. Mountain biking was our thing back then, and I can recall several wonderful adventures. We made several camping forays to spend weekends exploring the trails in the mountains of NC at Tsali or bringing the families together to enjoy the Virginia Creeper.

    Jeff was the guy that first let me know that wrenching was within my grasp. “Don’t be afraid to poke around” he would tell me. Initially the 4 cables on my mountain bike were a mystery, but under his tutelage I became proficient at understanding the rather simple system(s). That led me back to motorcycles (following a surprise heart issue and subsequent stent) that I had ventured away from following the birth of my daughter. His initial prodding and showing me the ropes of wrenching stays with me today.

    A huge part of the US Desmo Ducati and Porsche scenes, he was always the leader (self proclaimed or otherwise), trip planner, route leader. He knew virtually every road within a 500-mile radius of our NC home. Jeff did everything full bore, never just dipped his toe in the water. Track days on two and four wheels was commonplace and he was talented beyond my mediocre skill set.

    Jeff was in route to a US Desmo gathering at the NC/VA border on Thursday when something went horribly wrong. A dump truck, a head on collision, the result of which was overwhelming. Although details are still very sketchy, he had the presence of mind, still wearing his Bluetooth helmet, to call his wife Chrissanne from the evac helicopter. It was then that the damage was too much to bear, and he succumbed to his injuries.

    Stunned by the news of his passing and thru a relatively sleepless night, I rose Friday morning wondering how Jeff would like to see me honor his life. Much to the chagrin of my loved ones, I rolled my Hawk from the garage and did a 100-mile loop of some of my favorite roads in his honor. I hope he was looking down and smiling at the small, albeit insignificant, gesture.

    I wish to send all our love to Chrisanne, son Jay, his brothers, extended family and friends. He left us far too soon and though we were somewhat separated by ‘life’, I never felt we lost mutual respect, admiration and friendship.

    Rest In Peace my friend, until our paths cross again…
    This forum is entirely dedicated to wasting time and money modifying a slow motorcycle. - joel

    Nothing like a project to keep you busy, slowly draining funds out of the wallet! - spacetiger

    Our Hawks have all the power any mature, sensible rider can use on any street or highway without carrying around excessively unnecessary big-bore weight and power - squirrelman

    Bike builds can be and most time are art and expression. To take something mass produced and impersonal and make something personal that you can't stop staring at as you walk away. There is nothing I find more satisfying than looking at something cool and beautiful and thinking "I made that". - 6

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    Sorry for your loss. Sounds like he was a great friend.
    Flock of Hawks | '13 Tacoma | '69 Falcon (currently getting reassembled!)
    I've spent most of my money on women, beer, cars and motorcycles. The rest of it I just wasted.

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      #3
      It pains me to read this post. So sorry for the loss.

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        #4
        That sucks man. Sounds like he lived a cool life. Sounds like you learned some cool shit from your friend. Sounds like dude learned some cool shit himself while he was here.

        Hope his kid makes it through everything that's about to come relatively unscathed.

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        Don't spend money and buy, spend time and learn.

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          #5
          Very sad news indeed.
          Sounds like he lead a good life and was a positive influence on a lot of people.

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            #6
            Sorry to hear, Tom.

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              #7
              Originally Posted by 6 View Post
              Hope his kid makes it through everything that's about to come relatively unscathed.

              His son Jay is a well adapted mechanical engineer, gear head and Ducati rider. At 37 years, I feel he'll deal with it in a mature way, the way his father would have wanted...

              This forum is entirely dedicated to wasting time and money modifying a slow motorcycle. - joel

              Nothing like a project to keep you busy, slowly draining funds out of the wallet! - spacetiger

              Our Hawks have all the power any mature, sensible rider can use on any street or highway without carrying around excessively unnecessary big-bore weight and power - squirrelman

              Bike builds can be and most time are art and expression. To take something mass produced and impersonal and make something personal that you can't stop staring at as you walk away. There is nothing I find more satisfying than looking at something cool and beautiful and thinking "I made that". - 6

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                #8
                Ride safely my friends...
                This forum is entirely dedicated to wasting time and money modifying a slow motorcycle. - joel

                Nothing like a project to keep you busy, slowly draining funds out of the wallet! - spacetiger

                Our Hawks have all the power any mature, sensible rider can use on any street or highway without carrying around excessively unnecessary big-bore weight and power - squirrelman

                Bike builds can be and most time are art and expression. To take something mass produced and impersonal and make something personal that you can't stop staring at as you walk away. There is nothing I find more satisfying than looking at something cool and beautiful and thinking "I made that". - 6

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                  #9
                  Originally Posted by flyinelvis View Post


                  His son Jay is a well adapted mechanical engineer, gear head and Ducati rider. At 37 years, I feel he'll deal with it in a mature way, the way his father would have wanted...
                  I sure hope so. It's good if he left his son with the coping skills to deal with loosing him. The ultimate final accomplishment as a father imo.
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                  My step sons, CJ and Cam, 16 and 11, will loose there dad this week. Possibly even today. I was 29 when my dad died. My dad was 54 when his dad died. none are easy.

                  I don't care how old you are... When your dad dies, you are a kid. That's your dad.
                  Dying sucks, but imo they don't know that any more. The ones I really deal for are the survivors.
                  Don't spend money and buy, spend time and learn.

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                    #10
                    Oh man, so sorry for your loss - and bravo for your time spent honoring Jeff. I'm sure it made him smile from wherever he is now.

                    WW/R
                    Life is a journey, not a destination.

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